If your friend rarely posts anything about her relationship, it can mean one of two things. She may be ashamed of her relationship or she may be hiding something from her partner.
She might have an anxious attachment style and needs external validation. Research from Albright College found that people who have this type of attachment style post more often about their relationships.
1. It can backfire
Some people like to post about their relationship on social media to show off. However, it can backfire. This is because it can make other couples jealous. It can also lead to feelings of insecurity. It’s important to remember that everyone has their own problems and challenges in life. You should never compare your own situation to someone else’s. This is especially true when it comes to relationships.
It’s also important to be aware that some people use their social media to spy on their former partners. This is more common among men than women. Approximately 17% of men have admitted to posting private information about their ex on their social media account after a breakup. This is an extremely dangerous practice that should be avoided at all costs.
2. It can hurt your relationship
If you’re always posting about your relationship on social media, it’s a sign that you may not be in a healthy and happy place in your life. This type of behavior can lead to jealousy and insecurity, which are not good for your health or your relationship.
In fact, studies have linked oversharing on social media to a lack of satisfaction in your relationship. And, remember, it’s not necessarily true that everything you see on social media is real.
For example, Dean’s friend frequently posts about her boyfriend, describing their “perfect” relationship in great detail. However, in the comments, followers will make snide remarks about her partner’s work or personal life, generating tension that doesn’t really exist. Regardless, such comments can be extremely hurtful and cause your relationship to deteriorate even more. It’s not only a sign of a toxic and unhealthy relationship, but it’s also not fair to your partner or to anyone who reads those comments.
3. It can hurt your partner’s feelings
One of the biggest problems with posting about your relationship is that it can hurt your partner’s feelings. A lot of people use social media to express their love for their partners by displaying photos or videos that feature them together. This can cause your partner to feel jealous or envious.
Couples should be able to talk to each other about their feelings in a safe format. Bringing the internet into these conversations can turn your platforms into the Wild West of insults and subtle digs, making it difficult for you to resolve conflict.
Additionally, if you discuss an argument on social media, your partner may be reminded of it every time they log onto their accounts. This can make it harder to move forward from a disagreement because you’re constantly reminded of the hurt feelings and frustration that surrounded the argument. Couples should try to avoid sharing any personal details of their arguments on social media.
4. It can be embarrassing
One of the biggest issues that can come from posting about your relationship is that it can be embarrassing. Whether it’s a picture of you two making out or an angry post about something your partner did, these things can cause problems in the relationship. They can lead to confusion, jealousy, or even anger. If you want to talk about something that is causing problems in your relationship, try to do it privately with them instead of publicly online.
Sometimes, people can even become more insecure in their relationships because they post too much about them on social media. This can happen when a person feels they need external validation or because of their anxiety about how their partners feel about them.
It’s also not good to lie about your relationship on social media. If you’re hiding a tagged photo of you dancing drunk at the club or an entire TikTok account that your partner doesn’t know about, that’s not fair.